Realism, from frustration to appreciation
We develop greater realism by pitching our assumptions and expectations against reality, suffering in the process when they aren’t aligned, and arriving in due course at greater acceptance and understanding of the reality of our lives.
Feeling the pain of this misalignment in our lives without trying to change it, forces us to change our expectations.
Accepting reality matures us.
The more aligned our expectations are with the internal and external realities of our lives, the less we suffer, the more harmonious our lives will be, and the more we will be open to the appreciative joy that naturally arises within us when we stop pursuing a different experience to the one we are having.